Psychology

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"We need more psychology, we need more understanding of human nature." - Carl Jung

"Know Thyself." - Socrates

"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways." - Sigmund Freud

Dr. Tracey Marks: Why You Can't Just 'Get Over' Trauma: The Science Behind Healing

Dr. Tracey Marks

"When we talk about trauma, we're not just talking about the event itself, but the lingering impact it has on your brain and body. To understand why trauma is so hard to get over, we need to understand what happens to your brain and body.

Trauma is a complex psychological and physiological response to experiences that overwhelm a person's capacity to cope. It's often associated with a single life threatening event like accidents or assults.

• But trauma can also result from prolonged exposure to chronic stressors such as
• abuse
• neglect
• or systemic oppression.
• Psychologicaly, trauma occurs when an event or series of events profoundly impacts a person's sense of
• safety
• identity
• and world view.
• It's important to note that trauma is subjective, what's traumatic for one person may not be for another depending on factors like
• personal history
• support systems
• and neurological resiliance.

When you experience trauma, several key areas of your brain are impacted.

• The Amygdala, often referred to as the brain's fear center, becomes hyperactive.
  • This heightened state of alertness is why trauma survivors often feel anxious or on edge even when there's no immediate danger.
  • The Amygdala remains in a constant state of vigilance scanning for potential threats and making it hard to relax or feel safe. (2:15)
• Your Hippocampus, which is central to forming and retrieving memories
• can actually shrink in response to trauma
• and the structural change affects how memories are restored and recalled, which is why people with trauma often experience fragmented or distorted memories of the event.
• Then there's the Preforontal Cortex which is normally responsible for rational thinking, decision making and impulse control.
• Trauma survivors have reduced activity in the Prefrontal Cortex making it difficult to make regulate emotions, concentrate or make decisions, especially in stressful situations.

The concept of Neuroplasticity offers hope. Neuroplasticity is the brain's ability to form new neural connections. So the ability to change the brain can go both ways. Trauma can create maladaptive pathways and shrink brain regions, but there are several treatment approaches that can allow for healing the brain from trauma through Adaptive Rewiring.

Evidenced Base Therapies for Trauma:

Embodiment. In order to manage your emotional and physical stress response, you need to get good being able to tune-in to your body's sensations and reactions. Mind-body practices like mindfulness, [excersize] yoga, and breath work also help cultivate a sense of embodiment.

• Mindfulness
  • involves staying present with your experiences without judgement.
  • For trauma survivors, mindfulness helps reduce anxiety and improve emotional reguation by training the brain to remain anchored in the present rather than getting swept away with tramatic memories or worries.
• Excersize/Yoga has also been shown to help release tension stored in the body and promote relaxation.
• Breath Work techniques like deep breathing or dyaphromatic breathing can help calm the anonomic nervous system, reducing the bodies fight or flight response and promoting a state of rest and healing.

Healing from trauma is rarely a linear process. There will be good days and bad days. And you need to treat yourself with kindness rather than judgement. Self-compassion involves recognizing that suffering is a part of the human experience and that you have to treat yourself with the same care that you would offer a loved one. Research shows that self-compassion can reduce the negative effects of trauma by promoting emotional resilience and reducing feelings of shame or self blame.

Simple practices like:

can be forms of self care and support healing.

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"You know how people are, they catch a word and then everything is schematized along that word. There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or a pure introvert.

Those are only terms to designate a certain tendancy, to be more influenced by environmental influences or more influenced by the subjective fact.

That's all. My whole scheme of typology is merely a sort of orientation. The classification of individuals means nothing! Nothing at all! This is only the instrumentarium for practical psychologists." - Carl Jung

Narsaccism

"He may not know it but he behaves as if his own individual life is God's special will which must be fullfilled at all costs. This is the source of his egoism. Which is one of the most tangible evils of the neurotic state. But the person who tells him he is too egotistic has already lost his confidence and rightfully so, for that person has driven him still further into his neurosis. If I wish to affect a cure for my patients I am forced to acknowledge the deep significance of their egoism. I should be blind indeed if I did not recognize it as a true will of God. I must even help the patient to succeed in his egoism. If he succeeds he estranges himself from other people. He drives them away and they come to themselves as they should for they were seeking to rob him of his sacred egoism. This must be left to him for it is his strongest and healthiest power. It is as I have said a true will of God which sometimes drives him into complete isolation. However wretched this state may be, it also stands him in good stead, for in this way alone can he get to know himself and learn what an invaluable treasure is the love of his fellow beings. It is moreover, only in the state of complete abandonment and loneliness that we experience the helpful powers of our own natures." - Alan Watts reads Carl Jung and the Philosophy of Good and Evil. [video]

YOUTUBE VIDS:

• A narcassist's most dangerous weapon is the ability to trigger you to the point of reaction.
• When you finally react, they will shift the focus to your tone, saying look at how you're speaking!
• Instead of addressing their own abusive behavior they will fixate on how you responded.
• For them, the entire focus is on your tone not their abuse because how dare you sound that way?
• Yet they will never acknowlege their provacation.
• To a narcassist, it doesn't matter if they ridicule you under the guise of a joke, or humiliate you infront of friends and family, they expect your tone to remain calm, kind, and polite, no matter how broken you feel inside.
• When they see you winning an arguement and exposing their true nature, they immediately shift the focus to your tone, rather the truth you are speaking.
• "Look at your tone!" is the narcassist's last weapon to win any arguement.
• For a narcassist, their abuses are irrelevant, your reaction is the crime.

• 1. They are triggered by disrumptions
• 2. They're triggered by complexity.
• 3. They're triggered by lifestyle oddities.
• 4. They're triggered by your independance.

• A narcissist is never truly happy.
• They need somebody else to constantly make them feel a certain way.
• If they don't get the attention, they will heighten their abuse.
• They are amoungest the most deeply wounded and unhappy people in this world.

"Hurt people hurt people."

Sociopathic traits - impulsivity, empathy and remorse are in low supply, quick to anger, difficulty keeping relationships, not concerned with hurting others or right and wrong.

Pscyhopathic traits - charming and calculated, zero empathy or remorse, good at hiding anger to not stand out, better at maintaining relationships, not concerned with hurting others or right and wrong.

8 Signs You're Dealing with a Psychopath

1. Lack of Empathy. 2. Lack of Guilt. 3. Charismatic. 4. Fake or Manipulative. 5. Constant Lying. 6. Irresponsible. 7. Blame others for their mistakes. 8. Impulsivity.

Remind you of anyone you know, or voted for?

5 Ways to Deal with a Psychopath

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Book: Healing Steps by Sharyn Higdon Jones, MA LMFT

"We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full."

"That I feed the hungry, forgive an insult, and love my enemy -- these are great virtues!

But what if I should discover that the poorest of the beggars and the most prudent of offenders are all within me, and that I stand in need of the alms of my own kindness; that I myself am the enemy who must be loved?

What then?" - Carl Jung

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Book: Invitation to Psychology by Carole Wade and Carol Tavris

p.358 - Schizophrenia - where the personality loses its unity. A form of psychosis and often includes distorted perception of reality.

p. 359 - 2 Categories: Positive (additions to behavior or thinking), and Negative (absence of behavior or thinking).

4 Symptoms: 1. Bizarre Delusions, 2. Hallucinations, 3. Disorganized incoherent speech, 4. Grossly Disorganized or Inapporpriate Behavior

Theories of Causes: 1. Genetic Predispositions, 2. Structural Brain Abnormalities, 3. Neurotransmitter Abnormalities, 4. Prenatal Abnormalities

Mental Disorder: violation of cultural standards, behavior that is maladaptive for the individual or society, and the emotional suffering caused by the behavior.

p. 365 - Personality Disorders - characterized by rigid, self-destructive traits that cause distress or an inability to get along with others. They include

Anxiety Disorders - Generalized anxiety disorder, Phobias, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Mood Disorders - major depression symptoms are low self-esteem, fatigue, loss of appetite, prolonged grief and despair.

Bipolar Disorder - symptoms of episodes of depression and mania (excessive euphoria).

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